🎧 Listen to this wave

Letting go of what hurt me so I can receive what is waiting for me.

How I think is how I feel.

When I say I am, I am commanding my mind. My mind creates my emotions, and my emotions become part of my identity. I am the one living this — not someday, not in the past. Right now.

And here is what I am beginning to see: when I recreate the past through my memories, I am actually creating new versions of those same experiences in the present. Again and again, I revisit them, reaffirming who I believe I am.

We revisit the same memories, the same emotions, the same reactions. And that makes us keep feeling the same way because the feeling is familiar — even when we dislike what comes with it.

We become attached to an old version of ourselves. We keep identifying with who we were, and sometimes we don’t move or grow in the direction we once imagined.

And we feel it every day. It takes our energy, drains our emotions, and can leave us feeling somehow paralyzed. We hold on to that reality as if there isn’t enough — not enough time, not enough love, not enough possibilities.

But what if I can change the way I see myself?

If I observe myself, I become conscious of what I am doing — and of what I need to change. No more making the same choices without questioning them. No more complaining without taking action. No more procrastinating while waiting for something to happen.

I need to change this.

Yesterday, I started exercising.

Today, I look out the window and it’s dark. My body is sore from yesterday, and the first instinct arrives immediately: I’ll do it later. I’m staying in bed. I’ll do it tomorrow. Let me give my body a rest.

And then tomorrow comes, and I’m still thinking I’ll do it the next day.

I look at my body and think: If I could exercise consistently, things would change.

But what am I actually doing to make that change happen?

That’s the moment. When I try to break a habit, my body sends signals to my mind: Start tomorrow. It’s raining. You’re tired. You deserve a little more rest.

And every excuse takes me back to the same familiar place.

But today, I make a conscious decision to go against that familiar pattern.

I get up. I move. I do it.

I move one step forward when my heart dominates my mind and my body.

I choose not to let my familiar thoughts dictate my actions — even when my body wants to stay where it is.

Because change begins when I become willing to experience something different, even when it feels uncomfortable.

When I embrace something unfamiliar, I begin to create a new experience. I don’t have to predict my future from my past anymore. I can create it from the unknown.

I can teach myself new emotional responses. With attention and intention, I can practice feeling what I want to experience until those feelings become more familiar. And as my feelings, thoughts, and behaviors begin to change, my choices and my life can change with them.

Cause and effect.

If I begin to see myself as whole, worthy, and open to receiving, I may start recognizing opportunities I couldn’t see before. A life of infinite possibilities: a new job, love, money, new experiences, and opportunities I haven’t even imagined yet.

My thoughts and emotions influence my body. My brain and my body are not separate experiences. When my thoughts, emotions, and actions are constantly fighting each other, everything feels like stress.

And I recognize this pattern in my relationships, too.

If I connect a person with a negative emotion, that person can become a threat in my mind. If I connect a place with fear, I stop going. If I connect my life with a problem at the office, at home, everywhere — I start seeing those places through the experience I associate with them.

And I tell myself I can tolerate it.

It’s fine.

But is it?

Sometimes it’s not fine. It’s simply familiar.

I want to meet new people. I want the opportunity to go places, experience life, and discover things I haven’t experienced before.

But I am afraid of stepping outside what I know. So I stay where I feel safe, even when I am not happy where I am.

What am I protecting myself from? And what am I missing by staying there?

In the present moment, something else is possible.

In the creator moment, I forget the body, the place, the time. I am doing what I love, living how I want to live. I am no longer rehearsing yesterday or worrying about tomorrow. I am simply creating.

And that is what happens when I sit down to work on TodayWaves, when I paint, imagine, explore an idea, or let my creativity take me somewhere I didn’t plan to go.

I disconnect from the familiar noise. I allow myself to be me — present, inspired, curious, and free.

To change my identity, I have to break the circle: from somebody, to no one, to everything.

And I don’t want to change my past because I hate it. My past brought me to the person I am today. Every experience, even the painful ones, became part of my journey.

And when I look back with gratitude — no resentment, just gratitude — I am already changing my relationship with the past.

Gratitude. Love. Faith. Freedom. Inspiration.

These are not just words. They are feelings I can practice, choices I can make, and energy I can carry into the world.

From a particle to a wave. The deeper the emotion, the bigger the wave.

But there is something else I am beginning to understand.

I want to feel love.

Yet if I keep remembering painful experiences from the past, I am carrying those memories with both hands. I revisit them, protect them, and sometimes allow them to determine what I expect from the next person.

And I wonder why there isn’t room for a new love.

How can I receive something new when I am still holding on so tightly to something old?

I don’t have room for new flowers when my hands are full of the ones that have already wilted.

When I finally put them down, I have room for something new to come.

If my hands are full of what already hurt me, I can’t pick up the flowers.

So today, I am practicing a new feeling until it becomes familiar.

I am opening my heart. I am being grateful. I am allowing myself to experience wholeness again. I am letting my body learn what peace, love, and freedom feel like — so I can recognize them, welcome them, and choose experiences that support them instead of returning to what hurts.

I have the tools to create a different life. I am becoming familiar with my own behaviors, my emotional patterns, and the thoughts that keep me connected to the past.

And the feelings I practice influence the choices I make and the life I build.

Maybe Wave 70 is about emptying my hands of what already hurt me, so I finally have room to receive what I say I want.

What about you? What are you still holding with both hands — and what flowers could you pick up if you put it down?

— TodayWaves

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